One day a man came to the house of Umar bin Al-Khattab. disadvantages complained to his wife. But
while his arrival, he heard the wife of Umar bin Khattab out the hard
words and harsh to her husband, while Umar did not say a word. Eventually the person is thinking, should they cancel the only intention.
But when he wanted to go back home, Umar just out the door of his house. Umar immediately shouted to call the person. Direct Umar said to him, "You come to me would want to take one important news!"
People and said frankly, "Yes, friend, 'Umar bin Khattab, I have come to be complained against keburukkan wife. But after I heard your wife had effrontery against, and attitudes diammu to bear, so I undo the discretion to report the fact that my intentions."
Hearing the words of the honest, a small smile and said 'Umar, "O my brother, my wife has cooked food for me. He has also been washing my clothes, my house affairs, and raising my children so there is no letup. And when they do one of two offenses, not Our qualified recalls, was good, we forget the benefits. Ah, my dear brothers, between us and he was only there two days. If we were not leaving and escaping from his temperament, he will leave us and we are liberated from the behavior. "
After hearing the discussion that was both intelligent and wise, that person go away and Umar bin Khattab, feeling happy and satisfied.
Lessons from the story above
Every man in bekali with an attitude of patience and maturity in the face of every bad situation. Men are more successful in making the decisions to get out of the problem. The wise man is a man who understands his situation and how to manage his wife. That is why man is the head of the family. Husbands need to exercise patience when scolded and dileter by his wife, because husbands are patient will conduct his wife who talked or beleter, will be destroyed all the sins of his past. This applies to the Prophet Elias, who say that awarded him a strong beleter wife, because he knows this is the way he was the sin and easy way to get into the paradise of God.
Each husband and wife have to be smart, sometimes angry wife spitting or inconsistent about must have caused, there is a saying that women are emotional creatures and irregular wind about. So the husband to be smart for it, the better the action is silent when he heard his wife beleter or being angry, because his wife will be quiet and feel his actions were wrong and he will immediately apologized to her husband, then that we kaunselingkan him with the advice soft, the words of man to man. Often the wife is more open when it'm sorry to her husband on the deed.
Frequently-esteem had often our wives who have sacrificed time and energy to her husband, such as cooking, washing clothes, childcare, cleaning house, managing the home and so on. How gratitude is that every time salaries, brought his wife to go eat at any restaurant that berkongsepkan romentik, if this method can not, then remove the words of appreciation to his wife because the tasks are performed. Often husbands effort to produce the words of praise and appreciation, because her husband is ego or think the words would be a waste of time. Reward wife of any goods that appropriate to each moment of the day as his birthday happy, wedding anniversary and so on.
Actually, in terms of psychological wife will feel more appreciated and loved more when the husband and appreciate him. In fact, everything that we ask must be made by the wife with a heart full of our loyal and did not object.
There is the saying that women are likened to a very fine onion skin, onion skin, if you want to remove the need to be careful because the skin is soft and easily torn. The conclusion of this philosophy, she is very soft and felt and thought sensetif each time it is negligible.
The most dangerous time is when it is in menses or not pure, often these women are often uncertain state of his emotions, sometimes the reason you're not scolded by the wife. So this time the husband must understand and have to be berdiamkan self, self berdiamkan is better, or out of the house to go mengeteh and so on. This time it will be normal women own anger subsided, and he himself is not aware of his conduct.
For the husband should not be too fierce with his wife and too rough or harsh voice with his wife. This action will cause the wife to feel unappreciated and useless to her husband and most dangerous when the wife says her husband is only good when you want to be with him alone. All these acts will cause kerenganggan and keberontokan household. Wife feared her husband for fear of reprimand scolded, husband and wife are considered not provide proper treatment. If cooking fresh or over-salt wife, do not be irritated and angry with his wife. Use the wisdom to reprimand his wife. Once when the wife of the Prophet serves to fresh water without sugar because his wife forgot to put sugar in drinks Prophet. When he was drinking up his wrinkled brow, his wife saw a notice due to Allah's eyebrows. So she said, how the taste of the water, he said ok only, and his wife feel a bit of water dibancuhnya and smiled as the water is very fresh. He did not say anything and remained quiet.
Every time there is conflict, fights and understand the difference, the better the former husband apologized for the incident and tell me the real fights are. If possible, try to understand his wife about the situation faced by the husband. Examples of such situations as the boss scolded, a lot of unfinished work, traffic congestion, and the debt burden. If possible, hug your child to the wife of each session is clarification and apology, this helps to reduce the wife's anger and help to give an insight to his wife on the grounds of an argument.
The important thing here, all that faced by the husband and wife make it as a friend telling a story and express all the hardship suffered. Situations such as this will provide motivation and encouragement to her husband to get out of these problems, supported by his wife.
Do not have concepts like "the wife should be taught adequately, at his wife, the island's wife" all this will cause any problems in the home, remember the children when marital problems arise, it can also soothe ourselves and thus reduce our anger. Islam forbids the husband beat his wife and scolded his wife, except her husband advice on matters that must not be done by the wife then be scolded and beaten his wife so without hurting his wife. Because the beating was to teach his wife that his conduct was wrong.
But when he wanted to go back home, Umar just out the door of his house. Umar immediately shouted to call the person. Direct Umar said to him, "You come to me would want to take one important news!"
People and said frankly, "Yes, friend, 'Umar bin Khattab, I have come to be complained against keburukkan wife. But after I heard your wife had effrontery against, and attitudes diammu to bear, so I undo the discretion to report the fact that my intentions."
Hearing the words of the honest, a small smile and said 'Umar, "O my brother, my wife has cooked food for me. He has also been washing my clothes, my house affairs, and raising my children so there is no letup. And when they do one of two offenses, not Our qualified recalls, was good, we forget the benefits. Ah, my dear brothers, between us and he was only there two days. If we were not leaving and escaping from his temperament, he will leave us and we are liberated from the behavior. "
After hearing the discussion that was both intelligent and wise, that person go away and Umar bin Khattab, feeling happy and satisfied.
Lessons from the story above
Every man in bekali with an attitude of patience and maturity in the face of every bad situation. Men are more successful in making the decisions to get out of the problem. The wise man is a man who understands his situation and how to manage his wife. That is why man is the head of the family. Husbands need to exercise patience when scolded and dileter by his wife, because husbands are patient will conduct his wife who talked or beleter, will be destroyed all the sins of his past. This applies to the Prophet Elias, who say that awarded him a strong beleter wife, because he knows this is the way he was the sin and easy way to get into the paradise of God.
Each husband and wife have to be smart, sometimes angry wife spitting or inconsistent about must have caused, there is a saying that women are emotional creatures and irregular wind about. So the husband to be smart for it, the better the action is silent when he heard his wife beleter or being angry, because his wife will be quiet and feel his actions were wrong and he will immediately apologized to her husband, then that we kaunselingkan him with the advice soft, the words of man to man. Often the wife is more open when it'm sorry to her husband on the deed.
Frequently-esteem had often our wives who have sacrificed time and energy to her husband, such as cooking, washing clothes, childcare, cleaning house, managing the home and so on. How gratitude is that every time salaries, brought his wife to go eat at any restaurant that berkongsepkan romentik, if this method can not, then remove the words of appreciation to his wife because the tasks are performed. Often husbands effort to produce the words of praise and appreciation, because her husband is ego or think the words would be a waste of time. Reward wife of any goods that appropriate to each moment of the day as his birthday happy, wedding anniversary and so on.
Actually, in terms of psychological wife will feel more appreciated and loved more when the husband and appreciate him. In fact, everything that we ask must be made by the wife with a heart full of our loyal and did not object.
There is the saying that women are likened to a very fine onion skin, onion skin, if you want to remove the need to be careful because the skin is soft and easily torn. The conclusion of this philosophy, she is very soft and felt and thought sensetif each time it is negligible.
The most dangerous time is when it is in menses or not pure, often these women are often uncertain state of his emotions, sometimes the reason you're not scolded by the wife. So this time the husband must understand and have to be berdiamkan self, self berdiamkan is better, or out of the house to go mengeteh and so on. This time it will be normal women own anger subsided, and he himself is not aware of his conduct.
For the husband should not be too fierce with his wife and too rough or harsh voice with his wife. This action will cause the wife to feel unappreciated and useless to her husband and most dangerous when the wife says her husband is only good when you want to be with him alone. All these acts will cause kerenganggan and keberontokan household. Wife feared her husband for fear of reprimand scolded, husband and wife are considered not provide proper treatment. If cooking fresh or over-salt wife, do not be irritated and angry with his wife. Use the wisdom to reprimand his wife. Once when the wife of the Prophet serves to fresh water without sugar because his wife forgot to put sugar in drinks Prophet. When he was drinking up his wrinkled brow, his wife saw a notice due to Allah's eyebrows. So she said, how the taste of the water, he said ok only, and his wife feel a bit of water dibancuhnya and smiled as the water is very fresh. He did not say anything and remained quiet.
Every time there is conflict, fights and understand the difference, the better the former husband apologized for the incident and tell me the real fights are. If possible, try to understand his wife about the situation faced by the husband. Examples of such situations as the boss scolded, a lot of unfinished work, traffic congestion, and the debt burden. If possible, hug your child to the wife of each session is clarification and apology, this helps to reduce the wife's anger and help to give an insight to his wife on the grounds of an argument.
The important thing here, all that faced by the husband and wife make it as a friend telling a story and express all the hardship suffered. Situations such as this will provide motivation and encouragement to her husband to get out of these problems, supported by his wife.
Do not have concepts like "the wife should be taught adequately, at his wife, the island's wife" all this will cause any problems in the home, remember the children when marital problems arise, it can also soothe ourselves and thus reduce our anger. Islam forbids the husband beat his wife and scolded his wife, except her husband advice on matters that must not be done by the wife then be scolded and beaten his wife so without hurting his wife. Because the beating was to teach his wife that his conduct was wrong.
Make the wife as the closest friends and loved ones, our wives be as a way of conditioning the heart and indicators if we have difficulty. Husband also must effectively manage marriage, because her husband is wise to manage marriage well. Wise husband is also a husband who has good character and do things forbidden by Allah and always do the things commanded by God. Good family is a family mawardah warahmat and consider her as my house to Heaven.
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